People do not marry with the expectation of getting divorced. Marriage seems so simple and carefree, filled with anticipation, joy and good wishes.
Divorce is filled with anything but those feelings. Some visitors come to this Web site with a sense of relief that the nightmare is ending. Others may come with the realization that they
can no longer hold together what feels to be a charade. Still others may be experiencing a sense of shock or grief that what was once held most dear is now coming to an end. Regardless of the circumstances, most people experience divorce as an emotionally charged, life altering experience.
Perhaps the most significant decision you and your spouse will make is whether to seek a contested or uncontested (mediated) divorce. With a mediated divorce the two of you have complete control over the decisions. The process is collaborative in nature. A negotiated Settlement Agreement resolves the division of assets, parenting schedules, financial support and other key issues. The completed Agreement is submitted to the Court and serves as the basis for the final Judgement of Divorce signed by the Judge. Under the mediation model there is no need for a trial to obtain your divorce; you decide what is best for your situation and the Judge in essence rubber stamps your choices.
In a contested divorce you lose your power to make decisions about these important issues. Instead, you hope that your attorney presents a clear and coherent argument to the Court and that the Judge rules in your favor. The process is adversarial in nature - it is literally you and your spouse going to war with one another. Contested divorces are oftentimes an expensive, time consuming and emotionally draining process.
The purpose of this Web site is threefold: 1) To help you understand the process of mediation and how it works; 2) To answer questions you may have about my practice and how it may help you to find the best possible outcome for you, your spouse and your children; and 3) To provide you with a variety of resources that you may find of value as you go through this difficult time.
Please feel free to contact me with questions, concerns or to schedule a complementary introductory appointment.
